The human frustration

I’m writing this post to you dear reader. Yes you, reading this random post that you stumbled upon one searching for the term “Human”, or “Frustration”.

Understanding  my fellow men and women that populate this world of 7.7 billion people is something of a mission of mine. Let me tell you why.

I’m a feeler. I’m someone who can gain so much insight into a person quite quickly. If you’re dishonest or have bad motives, I can usually suss you out immediately. If you’re an open and honest and want to connect, I love you immediately.  It makes me very happy and enthusiastic.

This is a constant cause of frustration for me. It seems to me that most people I meet put up a barrier, making it impossible to get to know them properly. I’m selective with my friends, I hate small talk. As such, I don’t have many friends. I find it difficult to meet these people in my every day, and it causes me so much frustration.

How do you convince people to make that connection with you? You cannot force it of course. I read an interesting article recently that showed that, if you are more open yourself & not afraid to open up first, you’re more likely to make this connection. I’ve been doing this for 10 years already with limited success.

I’m interested to hear how you make this deep connection with people. Is it time that creates this? Is it luck? Whatever it is, I want to find it to make my life more fulfilling and allow people to be truly, human.



All systems go!

Well that’s it. I’ve finished work for 3 months.

The adventure starts in three days. Let’s get this show on the road!

Shared travel

Travel is awesome, that’s for sure.

It not only enriches your mind, body and soul; it also gives you a wider perspective on the world and the people in it.

Now I’m not here to tell you that you will go away and travel and find your insertquotationfingershere: inner monk :uninsertyourquotationfingers? immediately.

But when I can tell you is that travel, whilst sharing your experience with a friend, sibling or spouse, is something else entirely, unique. You might have exactly the same experience as the other person, yet still have totally different impressions.

Let me give you a small example to start with.  In July 2014, I stayed in Airlie Beach, Australia, with a girl I met on my travels. She then became my wife etc, but I digress. We were there for a few weeks.

airlie-beach-australia-4Airlie Beach, Australia.

I remember waking up, heading to the showers and hearing Champagne Supernova by Oasis on the radio every day. Whenever I hear it now, it takes me right back to that moment, that feeling of utter contentment and happiness. I remember feeling I was faster than a cannonball every day. Yet living life so slowly. It was perfect.

Ask the same question to my wife and she will probably tell you a different story; she probably remembers the live music, our food getting stolen, I could go on. Yet, this makes shared travel so special. We can relive the moment via our own perspectives. We both bring something interesting to the memory table.

Shared travel also helps you to get to really know someone deeply. I learnt so much about my wife when we were together, and I knew that she was the only girl I ever wanted to be with after this point; she was perfect, and still is. I also know if I had traveled with members of my family, we would also have an even stronger relationship now.

I wouldn’t ever swap those experiences, and I will be doing them again soon. I can’t wait to learn even more about you, and you to learn more about me. That’s why I am bringing the blog with me! : )

So go do it. Take your friend, take your brother, take your partner. Turn your phones off, open a map, explore.

It will change your life, it changed mine.

August already?

Do you ever sit back and think, where has the year gone?

When I think that it is already August, and I think over the things that have happened this year, I can’t quite believe it. It feels like I’m living in a washing machine, spinning round and round, and time is only speeding up!

I’m trying to take moments to breath, to remember that this is not a rat race, and it’s OK to do nothing.


My top tip: just say no. Say no to those “Do you want to come out for drinks tonight?” questions when you really don’t feel like it but don’t want to let anyone down. Say no to those “Can we do this on this date, and this on that. Let’s follow up on..” JUST STOP AND SAY NO.

The hardest thing is saying no sometimes I know that. As an introvert, I appreciate the effort it can take. But once you get the hang of it, it really is a godsend.

So I’m saying goodnight, I’m saying no to the internet (for now).

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending

Conquering my mental health

Tonight’s blog will be slightly off topic. I have had these thoughts the last few days – so it’s time to share them with you lovely people.

I’d first like to set the scene and rewind to a 20 year-old Adam.

He was:

  • Niave
  • Complacent
  • Passive
  • Unambitious
  • Disinterested
  • Selfish
  • Closed

At 20 years old, I did not have much mental understanding and understanding of how the world works. All I was interested in was football and computers, and didn’t really care much for self-improvement or ambition.

The 30-year-old Adam is:

  • Driven
  • Ambitious
  • Caring
  • Understanding
  • Loyal
  • Self-aware
  • Courageous

How did I get to this stage?

Well that’s a tough one. From what I recall, I went through a bad relationship which upset me and made me doubt all aspects of my personality. I tend not to look back on these parts of my life with too much thought. But sometimes I do. Then I realise they were probably the start of something great. I learnt to love, I learnt to travel, I learnt to socialize, but most of all, I learnt never to be satisfied with the status quo. It wasn’t easy mind you, I remember feeling so bad at the time and not wanting to move, like, forever. I must have gained so much weight. But, I was unaware of anything, so who knows?

Since then, I’ve always had this ambition for more. I want more love from everyone, I want more travel, I want more ambition. It can be tiring not switching off, but I feel fulfilled most days. It’s important to have quiet time also, without it, I can’t operate. But I know set these boundaries for people, who respect that!

This leads to me the last few years, where this process has really increased ten-fold.

I have:

  • Read books (I didn’t finish a book until my late 20’s)
  • I exercised more
  • I pushed my social boundaries to the max and found out my true social happiness scale, what works and what doesn’t
  • I continued to travel (I met my wife this way!)
  • I continue to be ambitious

And the most important of them all

I learnt to continue dreaming.

Dreaming is something we can all do, and should continue to do. If you have a dream, and you are driven to achieve it, then anything is possible. It’s cliché, but true.

How did you over come your mental blocks and short comings? I’m interested to learn.

Inspired by –


Singapore skyline

Singapore -First stop

Hello fellow readers, thank you for joining me! As you may or not know, we (my wife and I) are due to embark on a 3 month trip to Asia.

Yesterday, the very first part of our trip was confirmed. We booked our relatively cheap flights to Singapore.


I went to Hong Kong once, and I’m lead to believe that both cities are very, very similar. Just as well, as I loved my time in Hong Kong!

Our flights came in around just over 400 EURO each, flying to London first and then onto Singapore Changi airport. Roughly, the whole journey will take us nearly a day! However, I for one, do not mind the air travel; I actually find it fun. You’re in your own little world up there, with a few hundred other people. Make friends, overhear interesting conversations or crying babies, create your own entertainment station, finish that book you have been meaning to, the possibilities are endless. Hell, I even suggested to my wife that we start our own Conga line all the way to the bathroom and implore people to join in.

But but but,  this is where I need your expertise if you would be so kind.

Which hidden gem of hotel/hostel would you recommend?

You see, we are looking for some different. We’ve stayed in lots of hotels and hostels. We want something special and unique. Something we will be talking about in years to come. Go on, if you know a cool place to stay in Singapore – let me know.

Of course, we are happy to also meet up with you if you are around in November. Write to us in the comments below and we will be happy to share a drink and explore with you.

To infinity and beyond.




That thing that I couldn’t tell you about last time; that I wanted to but it just wasn’t the right time?

Well now it’s confirmed! My three month career break is approved.

From late October until late January, I’ll be heading over to Asia to explore places like Singapore, Borneo, Sri Lanka and more. I cannot begin to tell you how excited I am. I did not think this opportunity would arise at any point – yet here we are. And it was so easy! My boss was so understanding and realises how much this means to both of us (The wife and I).

So here I am, right at the beginning of any planning, any researching. Bloggers that have been to Asia; I am pumped to hear your recommendations and your thoughts on the untapped wonders of the Asian world.

Have some advice? Let me know!

In the coming weeks, I’ll talk more about the planning, to the actual take off and everything then on in. Join me for the journey, it will be special. I promise.